When starting our journey towards achieving our goals, most of us will create our vision and pave out the path that will move us closer to reaching our goals. Despite that, the biggest obstacle that can stand in our way is the inaction that we can cause ourselves.
As the community grows, we need to look at why accountability is built into the fabric of London Real Academy as one of the drivers of performance.
If you look at the question I asked in the Private London Real Academy Facebook Group, you’ll see a big number of Academy Members voting YES to stepping up and taking action towards their personal or business goals with a buddy:Think of your accountability buddy as someone to
- remind you of your commitments
- give you valuable feedback
- ensure you track your progress
- help you course-correct when necessary
With such diverse attributes, Tim and William show why having an accountability partner who is outside of your industry, can provide you with fresh insight.
If you want to find out how the process of accountability makes you become clear-minded, intentional and ready to take on your goals, then this member interview shares some of the responses they give about how accountability is contributing to their overall success.
Tim van Zwieteren and William Peynsaert
Tell us about yourself and what you do
Tim – “After high school I did a study where I had to work four days and go one day to school. I worked at the audit department of Deloitte. I got fooled by the money status and quit after 2.5 years. After traveling for a half year I started my Bachelors degree in Economics. I finished it, but I did not like it at all. Then, I did a moderately interesting Masters degree and at this moment I am writing up my thesis. Happily, the topic of my thesis is pretty interesting. Besides being a student I play the saxophone, I enjoy fitness & exercise, and I enjoy food, nutrition and cooking.”
William – “I’m a therapist, based in Belgium. At the same time I’m also a playwright. I organise my own theatre events, together with other writers and actors. I also translate, mostly texts in Slavic languages, and I’m writing a PhD about the American Civil War. The common thread through all this, is my desire to educate people about psychology and how the human mind works, how we can be manipulated, how we can listen to our gut feeling, and so on. My career and my spare time are one and the same thing. I get paid to do what I love.”
What are your main goals?
Tim – “After experiencing what I do NOT want, I now know what I do want. I want to be an entrepreneur, or at least work in a small company with a lot of personal freedom that is replacing a common object, with a more sustainable one. My whole life and especially the last couple of years, I see that there is a lot to improve in this world regarding sustainability. My mission is to make a contribution to this improvement.”
William: “To stage three plays every year, and to one day own my own theatre, in the same building where I have my therapy practice. At the moment I rent a place where I have a theatre and my therapy practice, but it’s not my building, and it doesn’t look exactly the way I want it. And more as sort of hobby goals: I want to keep improving my Slavic languages and I want to do something more concerning the American Civil war, but I’m not sure what yet.”
How did you become accountability partners?
Tim – “When William joined the Academy, he regularly posted on the Activity Feed about his day and how he wants to improve. I also noticed he was trying to cut carbs to lose weight. So, I sent him a message with some links to information about it. Afterwards, we started talking about our interests and goals, we found a connection and decided to be accountability partners.”
How is accountability helping you reach your goals?
William – “Tim has really pointed out some things I sort of knew, but wasn’t aware of clearly enough to change them. For example: Tim noticed I do a lot, but don’t really accomplish anything really big, because I combine so many different things. Tim has encouraged me to limit myself to one thing, or to at least find one common ground in what I do. Since then, I have a bit more focus and a clearer direction. It’s just not humanly possible to combine four different professions. Thanks to Tim I’m striving towards specializing in one major thing, and the one major thing seems to be: to work with, talk about, teach about, write about, and stage plays about psychology and the human experience.”
How do you stay accountable?
Tim – “We fill in our daily checklist and email it to each other.”
William – “Tim checks on me daily, and I always have his eyes on me, so to speak. I’ve internalized him! He’s my inner critic/mentor. When I do something inconsistent with my goals, I have this reflex to think: ow, careful, I have to report this to Tim and he won’t be happy about it!”
What are your top 3 tips for being a great accountability partner?
- “Be honest with each other.”
- “Have a keen eye for what the other truly needs.”
- “Discipline and the mentality of a drill sergeant (check each others progress and consistently ask the same questions if your partner is losing track with a goal.)”
William – “Along with a certain selflessness or maturity, because you can’t be someone’s accountability partner if their potential success scares you or makes you insecure. You have to have a passion for personal growth and you also have to realise you can’t possibly have all the answers for the other, but you can help look for them. The best accountability partner is a ‘comrade in arms’.”
What are the steps to finding a great accountability partner in the Academy?
Tim – “Search through Members’ Profiles and look at what they are struggling with. If you see something you have experienced and you feel you can help the other, send them a message. All the people in the Academy want to improve themselves.”
William: “Make clear you are looking for one. And start being one yourself, pick someone you like, and cheer this person on. Chances are this person will like what you do and will return the favour.”
Have YOU set your SMART GOALS yet? Do YOU have an accountability partner?
If you voted YES to a buddy in the poll on the Private London Real Academy Facebook Group, go and check your Private Messages – your buddies are waiting to be contacted! Let me know how YOU make sure that you both get the most from the relationship. Share it with me in the comments below!
At this New York City Meetup, Academy Members Andrew Sparks, Charlotte Meyer, Olive, Paul Smith, Rebecca Peters and Tone Floreal recorded their goals for us:We’ve just addded a new meetup in San Francisco next week – if you’re in the area don’t miss it!
There’s also a weekly 5km Tribe Run and brunch meetup in London every Sunday at 9am – more details here!See if there’s a Meetup scheduled in your city here, and if there isn’t let me know if you’d like to host one!
Until next week’s Tribe Talk, take care and get in touch with me @noorahnaker – it would be great to hear from you!
P.S. Here’s a photo of me at a recent Focus Group – I hope to see you at the next one! If you haven’t attended one yet, grab the LAST spot for the next one tomorrow!