Dan Hardy sticks in my memory not just because he remains one of our most watched guests on London Real, but because he’s just so open and honest.
At the time of filming this episode Dan was still waiting to hear if he was going to be the UFC’s man in the UK, but that didn’t stop him from laying everything on the table.
As always, I learned so much from Dan but here are three of the top takeaways from this now classic episode.
- Own Your Losses
- Psychedelics Need Discipline
Right from the get-go, Dan said there was nothing off the table.
Dan’s career in the UFC was full of ups and downs, going from the number one welterweight contender to a four fight losing streak after a gruelling fight with champion George St. Pierre.
You never know how a fighter is going to take questions about his losses.
But Dan insisted on absolute honesty, and seemed happy to go anywhere I wanted to take him.
He also talked openly and honestly about psychedelics and how they affected his training and fighting.
On top of that he gave us an account of what it was like to be diagnosed with the rare heart condition, Wolff-Parkinson White Syndrome.
Dan goes into serious detail here, talking about the condition that finally ended his fight career.
I actually asked him if he thought it was a good idea to get so raw about his regular use of drugs, when he was in the running to be the UK’s figurehead for the UFC.
Dan told me the more honest he is in life, the more opportunities open up to him.
You hear a lot of people say that your outer world experience will be a reflection of your inner world.
Dan is proof that this is true. It was a real eye opener for me.
He had so much to lose from coming clean, but in the end of the day it was about integrity.
Short term it pays off to be economical with the truth, but if you are super-open with people, then you build trust, and attract the relationships that really matter.
- Owning Your Losses
The story of that four fight losing streak is really tough to hear from Dan, but by that point he was really philosophical about it.
Dan gave us a fight by fight analysis of his opponents, his training regime, and the moves that lost him those heartbreaking bouts.
Each time Dan talked about a fight and the reasons for his loss, he was completely raw about his own weaknesses.
Whether it was a move he didn’t see coming, or he felt he was just outmatched, Dan recounts these moments with real clarity and humility.
Dan is not just an MMA fighter, he’s a martial artist.
Martial artists are all about controlling the ego, and there’s no better way to get over yourself than to truly own your limitations, mistakes and failures.
I honestly believe this not only makes him a great guy, but it’s probably what makes him so good at his job as a fight commentator.
- Psychedelics Need Discipline
I wanted to touch on psychedelics here, because I think Dan captures perfectly the difference between the reality and the myth around plant-based drugs.
We’ve talked a lot about the use of Ayahuasca and Psilocybin on London Real, and you’ve heard me say many times that they are powerful tools for self-fulfilment and awareness.
It’s not just about experimenting with crazy experiences, it’s about actually developing yourself.
Dan has a great quote from this episode: “Ayahuasca doesn’t change the person, it just helps them understand who they are, so that they can make the changes themselves.”
I couldn’t agree more.
But Dan’s use of psychedelics is entirely unique. He integrates them into his life, his training and his fighting.
He told us about his detailed routines before and after his ceremonies, and they even involve kettle-bell workouts and long distance running.
Even for me, this is out there, but I can see why he does it. Dan actually WON the next fight after his first Ayahuasca experience.
It’s about evolving and developing his relationship with his ego and his intuition.
Dan taught me that if you want to get the full benefits of an experience like this, you have to do it right.
All drugs tend to get grouped together, and most people think psychedelics are as recreational as Marijuana and alcohol.
It’s just not true. All evolution is hard, and takes attentive discipline.
There’s no shortcut whether it’s meditation or psychedelics, and Dan brought that truth home for me in a big way.
The running theme here is how impressed I was with how Dan had built a healthy relationship with his ego.I’m interested to know if there are any failures and losses you’re carrying around from YOUR life right now, and how you might take ownership of them and let them go.
Let me know in the comments below, and I look forward to hearing about your growth!